Thailand Investigations Blog
Do You Want to Know the Truth?

A great deal of the cases we get deal with trust, or more accurately, the lack of it. People who want to verify if their spouse or partner is cheating on them, people who want to look into the history and daily activities of a suspicious business partner, people who want to find former business associates who’ve stolen from them – you get the picture. Much of what’s written here, a mere fragment of what we experience, deals with having you know whether or not to trust someone – or at the very least, safeguard yourself just in case a particular person does turn out to be trustworthy. We could go on and on here, citing case after case after case of violated and betrayed trust.

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One of the things I’ve noticed is that many become victims because they look for trustworthy people in the wrong place. I have nothing against girls who work at go-go bars in general – I know many of them are really just trying to earn good money that they wouldn’t have gotten elsewhere, short of mugging someone – but really, when a go-go girl offers to give you your wildest fantasy outside of what you expect them to do, then you should think twice. We’ve seen time and again how that stupid male testosterone-induced illusion of being a knight in shining armor, a saviour, a sort of Messiah even, can just pull someone into the biggest nightmare he’s ever experienced in his whole life. Why not be satisfied with a familiar relationship that doesn’t have to develop into an overly deep emotional connection? We’ve seen men who develop a familiarity towards a certain girl, but they know where their boundaries lie – and that’s far from trusting them with the combination to your safe or the PIN to your ATM, or even a credit card.

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Good relationships are hard to find. Realize that, and whatever happens to the contrary is rare and an exception to the rule. If you want to find a good, honest and genuine relationship, don’t look in places where intimacy is a commodity.

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Another reason why people get fooled is because they rush into things. People who actually sit down and objectively assess a situation are rarely victimized be “enterprising” individuals. Haste is waste, they say. Of course, there are times when despite of thinking things through, incidents of betrayal still happen, but when you don’t think about something well, the greater chance of it happening to you.

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Sadly, trust is not something you can dispense with and distribute like the change in your pocket. It’s really important, and should not be given to anyone that easily. So always be careful with the people whom you trust and what you trust them with. One reader said it best: keep your cards close to your chest. Always leave something for yourself. Discipline yourself to be in control of your emotions, to have your head do the talking first before letting the heart consume everything.