Are you being cheated on?
Many people face the problem of being cheated on and they themselves don’t know it yet. The whole experience of being cheated on is really a big issue that should be resolved immediately, as time only serves to make things worse. More often than you might think, cheating can be put to a stop and the relationship repaired, as long as it is nipped in the bud.
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There are times when you just feel it in your gut that your partner is doing a double (or maybe even triple) number of you. You feel it, but can’t really put a finger to anything. This is normal, as you will be driven to think positively and try to see the best in your partner, thus finding it hard to look out for clues or indications that he or she might be cheating on you. Don’t worry, you are not alone when you look to optimism and turn a blind eye to your gut feel. But denial only leads to tragedy in the long run, so it is always best to identify the signs and maybe, just maybe, you can still save the relationship – if you want to. Nevertheless, here are some tips to help you determine if your partner is cheating.
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They start finding more fault with you.
This a common defense mechanism. By pointing out even the tiniest mistake you do and blowing it out of proportion, they rationalize their infidelity by acting as if you are the one at fault, that you somehow drove them to cheat. When this happens, take a good honest look at yourself to see whether these comments have any basis, or is just some excuse to find fault. It’s imperative here that you be honest with yourself, as you are not perfect, and your partner might just be airing legitimate concerns to you. If after some self-deliberation you realize that it’s really not your fault, then it might be time to think that maybe he or she’s the one with the problem.
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They accuse YOU of cheating.
Somewhat related to the first point, cheaters will sometimes accuse you of cheating, to somehow mislead you, as you’ll be too busy defending yourself that you won’t realize that they’re the ones who are really cheating. This is also sometimes caused by guilt, as many cheaters will somehow feel guilty for deceiving you; or may be cause by paranoia – since they’re cheating, they assume they they’re being cheated on as well. Either way, it’s something to look into.
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Things don’t add up.
There will be times when a story or reason will not add up, details contradict each other. This is when the lies start piling up and things start becoming hard to justify and explain. You may dismiss it as simply confusion, but this may be a cause for genuine concern.
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Finally, hire a PI to confirm.
Finally, hire a professional to confirm your suspicion. You really never know, unless you catch them in the act, which will be hard to do. Cheaters instinctively cover their tracks, and with your inexperience and emotional stake in the whole matter, chances for failure are high. Good private investigators are discreet and deliver good results. This will add the finishing touch and you finally know the truth.
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August 8th, 2009 at 00:20
I admit, I was a victim of cheating. While I was not fortunate enough that the relationship got repaired in the end, a friend of mine was able to accomplish this – they have gone over their issues and they are slowly moving on to better things. He was able to do this because he learned from my experience. I was naïve and did not want to admit that my Thai girlfriend was cheating on me. Thinking back, I saw all these signs but chose to believe that nothing was happening and that I was only being paranoid. When she told me, at the end, I was devastated, more so when she told me that she really did love me at the beginning. I now realize the faults I committed that contributed to my misfortune. I hope others learn from my experience. Good day to all.
August 9th, 2009 at 12:21
I really agree with this writing here. It’s good to know if the girl is cheating or not, because if she is, she is only stealing your money. Don’t be stupid and look at things as they really are. I say this because I recently experienced this, and boy, it was not nice. The worse thing about it was that she never loved me, she was only in it for the money. And I thought I was saving her. Stupid me. So do not put yourself in the same situation! Know the truth and save yourself a lot of hurt both in the heart and in the pocket.
August 10th, 2009 at 22:21
Highlander: It’s unfortunate that you were not able to fix the situation while it was still early. But these lessons are part of life. You can just be thankful that your friend followed your advice and their relationship is healing slowly. Good luck to you on future relationships. Thank you for visiting!
Lambaste: I understand where your anger is coming from. That is normal. But I think you, like highlander, have learned a lot from your experience and will do much better in the future. Cheers and good luck to you!
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