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Do You Want to Know the Truth?

A number of clients we’ve had here have been victims of some sort of manipulation. A lot of them only realize this when it’s too late, to their detriment. Manipulators exploit a guy’s weaknesses to the full and then his guard is down, hit him where it hurts – usually in a financial way. And really, who wants to experience that? If you must and want to have a relationship with a Thai girl, let it be healthy one, one with trust and the right relationship dynamics. Manipulation definitely is not a part of an equation for a healthy relationship. So to evaluate the kind of relationship you are in and determine if you are being manipulated or not.

Lying

Of course, lying is obviously a bad sign, but the real challenge here is to determine the truthfulness of your partner. A background check made against her claims is a very effective test to help you see if she can be trusted or not.

They are passive aggressive.

Sometimes you feel it, and sometimes you don’t, but the basic point is that manipulators never truly give in. They’re always on the offensive. There are the two types of aggression that they use – one is a passive the other is open aggression. Each has its own uses. Open aggression is easy enough to distinguish, but passive aggression is much harder to distinguish. Oftentimes manipulators divert the conversation to focus on your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Usually they disguise this aggression by pretending to be hurt or by giving subtle suggestions. The effect is that you don’t see you are being abused, and thus fall into their trap.

They use their bodies.

Let’s face it – you’re probably intimate with your partner. But is the intimacy being used as leverage? Many guys fail to notice this, which is why a lot of manipulative partners employ this strategy. Seduction is a powerful agent of manipulation, remember that. For many, seduction makes them forget about all their defences and simply give in. This is what wily manipulators are counting on. Sometimes they’re just teasing you and want to get what they want without necessarily giving you what you want, but it is also not unheard of some going all the way just to get what they want.

They pretend to be stupid.

One great way of misdirection is to act dumb. For many people, the normal attitude would be to preserve pride and always appear to know better. It’s the reverse for manipulative people. This pride is precisely what manipulators capitalize on when they try to act dumb and appear to be less smart than they really are. This way, they become less suspicious because people normally dismiss them automatically. The dismissal in turn, gives the manipulator more freedom to do what she or she wants – covertly and discreetly – because no suspicion is cast on him or her. Many men make the mistake of underestimating the intellectual capacity of their partners, which in turn makes this tactic so much more effective.