On Moving On
As one door closes another one opens. There may be a brief time in between the doors when you are meant to reflect or learn from your old door before you can be ready to step into the opening of a new one. A closed door may be an opportunity to move forward in our lives. This is a time of preparation, a time to find peace within you. The door that was shut will always be a glass door. Look back through it with gratitude and embrace every moment you had, while it was open. It was a part of you, which has helped mold you into the person you have become.
Not every plan works out. There are losses and failures happening every day. We don’t always have control over these happenings, but we can exercise control over our attention and attitude. We can control our emotions and our attributes to the situation though. When one of these things happens, and we focus our attention on the loss – the closed door, we see only a closed door with the resultant frustration and unhappiness, but if we could only move our sight and attention away from the closed door, we might be surprised to discover a row of open new doors.
And a new door is about to open to finish the creation process, for you to be exactly where you were meant to be in this world. It is hard not to cry because it’s over. Try with all your power to smile because it happened, for in every experience there is a lesson to be learned. When one door closes another opens but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.
Learn to have patience with all things and especially have patience with yourself. Time heals all wounds, as it heals closed doors. Try and form a support group while you are in-between doors. Stay in touch with those who touch your life, touched your heart and invigorated your spirit. Always look on the bright side and don’t let adversity keep you from winning. Be yourself because you are filled with special qualities that have brought you this far and will always see you through. Keep your spirits up, make your heart happy and let it reflect on everything you do and every word you speak. Your new door is opening; don’t miss a step or a chance to walk through it.
Your three most powerful tools at this point will be to have faith, allow time to heal wounds, and have patience. When one door closes another one opens bringing opportunities and adventure beyond our wildest imagination. When faced with that locked door, take a deep breath, give a prayer of thanks, and prepare for the miracle that will become your life. Hold on to your dreams and never let them go. Show the rest of the world how wonderful, unique and special you are by giving your circumstances a chance and others the benefit of the doubt. Never give up.
January 6th, 2012 at 23:57
It seems like nothing has gone right for me for a long time. I didn’t plan on everything being such a constant struggle. When everything is a fight, you start asking yourself if it’s really worth all the stress and trouble it seems to bring. But this is a great article. “In every experience there is a lesson to be learned” – everyone needs to remember this, and remind themselves of this (including myself!) Thank you for this article. I guess we all know this already but it’s good to be reminded every now and then so we won’t forget.
January 7th, 2012 at 01:58
problematic man: Thank you for appreciating the article. It’s really important to realize that dwelling on the past is not going to solve anything or make you go places in life. Many people get stuck in the cesspool of depression and sadness and make their loss double or worse than it already is, instead of learning from the experience and making it a sort of stepping stone to better and greater things. Moving on means moving forward, and a step forward is always the best thing. Staying where you are or worse, stepping backward has never helped anyone.
January 8th, 2012 at 14:28
I think that given time, everyone moves on. Well, at least, sooner or later. But I do understand where you are coming from with this as I know a lot of people who have experienced trauma from tragic things but fail to move on. They just keep on prolonging their suffering and dwelling on the past. I think it’s counter-productive to think like that, but hey, that’s just me. I do understand the feeling though, as I have been through some down times myself, but I make it a point to always be conscious of wanting to move on and move forward with my life.
January 9th, 2012 at 17:03
Some people just done know when to give up and throw up their hands and move on to better things. I have come across a lot of people like this and I keep telling them every time to just snap out of it. Even if they get annoyed or mad, I consider it my duty to remind people that there are other things in life. I have also been through rough emotional times so I understand the feeling. But through moving on, I eventually discovered new things and finally got the great things I know I deserve.
January 9th, 2012 at 22:11
Blueboy: Conscious effort is always important. Many times we just keep on letting our emotions get the better of us rather than taking the time to stop and really think deeply about things – what we’re doing right now and what SHOULD we be doing.
andrewbeckett:
That is true also, but not everyone can process those kinds of emotion that fast. But it IS important that they also realize that they cannot let themselves remain in a rut for the rest of their lives. They need to move on before it makes things go from bad to worse. Thank you for passing by!