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…is Amiss!

A lot of people sometimes reach a stage of the relationship where they suddenly feel the pangs of suspicion and think that something bad is amiss. In the by and large and in the big picture, this is really a 50-50 thing, but there are signs and symptoms of a dying (or cheating) relationship that you can look out for to help you at least determine the need for some expert help to look into the problem.

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Here are a few tips to help you lookout for cheating girlfriends:

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She starts to get all fussy about how she looks.

It is natural for all women to exact some degree of effort on the way they look, especially at the beginning of a relationship. But as time passes it does wane, and a sudden resurgence of interest in beautifying one’s self can be a legitimate cause for suspicion. This is done consciously or unconsciously, but has the same reason behind it – to look better for the new partner. There is a tendency for people in long term relationships to look at things in a routine or mundane manner, thus, when a new person comes in, the routine is broken.

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She loses interest in your intimate affairs.

The excuse that “I’m tired” and/or “I’m not feeling well” can only hold out for so long, and repeated excuses for avoiding intimacy – and even plain bonding moments – can be a sign that her intimacy needs are now directed towards a third party. Many women will find being intimate with the person they are currently with as a repulsive idea, as they have all their passion redirected to a new person.

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She has little time for you.

It is natural for partners to spend time apart from each other – there are many legitimate reasons why this happens. It’s one thing to be a bit busy and neglect the partner from time to time, but when it becomes a bit frequent, then there is cause for alarm. Either she’s being socially active and does not want you to become a part of that activity, and / or she’s just making excuses and lies so she has more time with someone new. If she’s out a lot and you’re not a part of the plan, then you should start asking yourself why that is.

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We here understand the concerns of many about discretion and such – especially if the woman in questions is from a go-go bar – and we would like to help you exhaust all means first before you come out and consult with us. Remember though, that the more drawn out you make all of this, the more damage it can cause if there is indeed cause for concern. While it is true that there are success stories about relationships that stem from less than socially acceptable roots, the truth is that many suffer from engaging in long-term relationships with these girls. It is usually just about the money and financial support, and faithfulness is never a guarantee.

…and Relationship Fraud!

Many guys think that the women we are talking about here are just go-go girls who just dance on your lap and seduce you. This is not the case. In the years that we’ve been in this business, we’ve come across a lot of different kinds of scams where the perpetrators are women who at least appear to be presentable and respectable.

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One scam we’ve come across is what we call a marriage / relationship scam. Subject A – who is a woman, the scam artist – seemingly runs into Subject B (who is male) at a gym or a seminar, or some other occasion. There is no seduction involved, actually – the premise is always like a budding friendship where she approaches you and casually strikes conversation, some small talk here and there, and she lets things develop from there. Many men would be impressed by her – she is not only easy on the eyes, but she is intelligent as well. But not to the point where she is intimidating. For many, it’s like a dream come true.

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As time passes, the both of you get to know each other, and a romance will likely blossom. But the real catch is that all the while, she is scoping you out and assessing your capabilities as well as your finances. There is also a chance that she has researched on you before prior to your actual introduction and has discovered a few things about you such as your habits and some personality traits. She does all this with the end of enticing you to join her in a business deal. She offers to handle the bulk of the work herself, with you supposedly acting as part financier. Many guys jump at this opportunity, as many have day jobs and cannot be bother with managing a full time business.

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She will act like everything is okay at the beginning – she’ll be very forthcoming about the receipts and other documents, and always has a good explanation for everything. She even brings you to a supposed office where everything is starting out – it all lends a lot of credibility to her story, and at this point, there is little reason not to doubt her all.

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But here is where she does you in – after everything, she suddenly disappears without a trace. Her cell phone cannot be reached, she is not at her apartment, and the “office” you went to was only hired for a couple of weeks or a month at most. All the money you put in will be gone.

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The thing to understand here is that there are women like these who plan way ahead, and who are willing to use any means necessary to get what they want. They are armed with loads of fake documents and stuff meant to deceive you. But it not something that they can hide from a good investigator, and a simple background check can dispel all the lies they’ve weaved around you. These people are dangerous because the combine their wily arts and their clever swindling techniques. So always, it is best to be sure and safe at the beginning.

A lot of people carry a big burden on their shoulders. They try to avoid confirming – or denying it – afraid of what they’ll find out. Sometimes in their gut they feel that something is wrong, but can’t just find it in themselves to find out the truth.

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This burden I am talking about is the burden of suspicion. And believe us, we’ve seen a lot of people who’ve harbored suspicions for a LONG time. Really, we’ve had people who’ve been suspicious of business partners and relationship mates for months and even years before they even thought of consulting a private investigator.

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As far as our experience goes though, not all of this suspicions and “intuitions” are right on the spot. A lot of times we’ve seen cases turn out to be NOT the horror stories our clients imagined them to be. And while we’ve also seen a good many cases confirm a client’s suspicions, the point is you can’t really tell.

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The thing with suspicion is that it eats you up. It starts small and innocently enough, and as long as it continues to be cultivated, just grows and grows. Gradually your imagination gets the best of you, and some people become very paranoid about it. Quarrels often result from these suspicions – because you really cannot confront a person with no hard evidence, if they really are doing something wrong, they’ll just deny it.

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Try to look at it this way. If the person you are suspicious of is indeed doing something wrong, then you only prolong and exacerbate the damage he or she can do if you leave it unfounded. On the other hand of he or she is NOT doing anything wrong, then you simply torture yourself thinking of bad things – which is unfair to the other person. And really, don’t you deserve to know the truth as early as possible?

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We understand that the truth can be hard to handle sometimes, but suspicion does not always mean the something bad is going on behind the scenes. It’s easy to get paranoid, but it can always be just some sort of miscommunication or misunderstanding on your or both your parts. And if you let that fester and eat you up, it can be damaging as well. Granted that it isn’t like if your suspicions were actually true, there will be negative repercussions, just of a different kind. Some people have actually lost their trust in other people simple because they were suspicious of them – even though they had no reason to be.

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So if you think something is going on that isn’t necessarily good, give us a call and we’ll look into it. Finding out the truth is our business – we have the skills, the experience, and the technology to get you the results you need. Spare yourself all those sleepless nights spent wondering if this or that is happening. Don’t let suspicion eat you up and consume you – you deserve the peace of mind that knowing the real truth can give.

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We’ve received quite a few questions asking where we get our information and the tips we provide here. One source is of course, the internet, where our team gathers information and does research on different things.

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The bulk of our advice though, comes from experience. We’ve been in the private investigations business for a while now, and we’ve come across different kinds of people from all walks of life, each with his or her own unique situation. While there are times when the results of an investigation are not exactly desirable – to us and to the client or to the client or both – we still learn a lot from what happened to others. It’s a classic application of the old saying “learn from other people’s mistakes”. We believe that while each person’s situation or circumstances may not be exactly the same all the time, our goal here is to get you, the reader, thinking. Suspicion and caution are not bad things to have in the start of an uncertain relationship – think about it, you two hardly know each other (and there are even times when it is precisely someone you think you know is the one who screws you over) and there are a lot of risks involved, regardless of whether you are entering a romantic relationship or a professional one. It is always best to be armed with the truth so you know if what you are getting into is legit, or if you are just being scammed and used.

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We’ve also had so many clients telling us that “I never thought it would happen to me.” They read a few similar instances of the whole scam but they never thought it would happen to them personally. While it is nice to have a bubble like that to live in, the reality is that we do not live in a risk-free world. This is not only applicable to Thailand, of course. You have to realize that being prudent and practical about things above everything else is a necessity. In this day and age where the economy is uncertain – and to top it off, the recent political turmoil here – you need to protect your assets and interests as much as you can.

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So we urge you to come keep on visiting this site for updates and articles. We simply want to share the different situations and scams and simple tips we encounter to help other people from falling into the trap that others have fallen into before. A lot of people pass by the right opportunity and timing to hire a private investigator and only realize too late how important a simple background check or preliminary investigation would have been to prevent their current sorry state. Or maybe if they just paused a bit and thought things through more, they would have noticed manipulative tactics and vague promises or even just to read a business contract more thoroughly. We want you to think about things more, and realize how some simple things like a background check can save you from big trouble in the future.

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“It’s too good to be true.”
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We’ve heard a lot of our clients say that at the beginning, when they start to relate to us the circumstances behind the cases they give us. And always, it does turn out to be so – too good to be true, that is.

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Let’s face it. The world isn’t perfect, and when something that looks ‘perfect’ comes along, the rational and responsible reaction should be to be wary and suspicious. Some people, whether a professional / business or romantic relationship – may have something close to ‘perfect’ but that kind of relationship is built and cultivated and worked at; it never just “comes along”. Sometimes it is a matter of luck, but well, the odds of that happening are just like the chances of you winning the lottery.

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We’ve lost count of how many clients who’ve told us how their romantic or business partnership seemed to go without a hitch at the beginning – sometimes for months, and sometimes even for years – before everything fell apart. You have to understand that scam artists always try to allay suspicion first before they make their move. They get you to trust them because the deeper in they get, the more they can bleed you – to their profit, of course.

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You may think that it’s a bleak outlook, but really, it’s not. It’s a sensible and reasonable way to look at things, especially when none of us can really know the reasons or intentions behind something, especially at the beginning of a relationship, whether business or romantic. And really, you owe it to yourself to know if a person is starting a business or personal relationship with your for the right reasons. You deserve to know if you’re going to be made into just another victim of theirs that they forget and hide from once they’ve gotten what they want.

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I remember one client of ours a few years back who wanted a background check done on a business partner of his, who happened to be a local guy. We checked him out and found that he was clean. Our client thanked us and said that he would be able to sleep better at night knowing that his business partner was clean. They continue to have a strong business relationship to this day, and their business is flourishing.

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When something seems too good to be true on the onset, it should be your first instinct to doubt it. That’s also the prudent thing to do, for your sake. Real good things stay good things even if you have it checked out, but false good things, well, fall apart when subjected to scrutiny.

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Remember that the truth can sometimes be elusive, and some people take advantage of that. They make you feel like everything is perfect, so that you let your guard down and after a while, the lie will be solidified as truth to you. You need to stop them before they latch their claws onto you.

Our previous letter sender featured in the past two posts, John Doe (obviously NOT his real name) had some very insightful information about how some people here operate.
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He likened the whole experience to a Venus Flytrap, which according to Wikipedia is:

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The Venus Flytrap, Dionaea muscipula, is a carnivorous plant that catches and digests animal prey—mostly insects and arachnids. Its trapping structure is formed by the terminal portion of each of the plant’s leaves and is triggered by tiny hairs on their inner surfaces. When an insect or spider crawling along the leaves contacts a hair, the trap closes if a different hair is contacted within twenty seconds of the first strike. The requirement of redundant triggering in this mechanism serves as a safeguard against a waste of energy in trapping objects with no nutritional value.

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There you go, people. That’s exactly what these girls do to you. They scope you out and see if you’re worth it. They determine if you are a good mark / prey for them. Then and only then will they work their mojo on you – and you all the while thinking that you just me or that everything “just happened”. There is no “just happened” when it comes to these kinds of people. Like a fly caught in a trap, you keep on sucking the nectar, and you don’t know you’re in it until the jaws close and you suddenly feel the squeeze. But by then, it’s too late.

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It is an unfortunate fact that it is fairly common for women to accede to a relationship with an expat because of money. And then there’s the chance that she might just be scamming you. Not to judge anybody – we have come across a lot of people who have had really successful relationships with local girls that are going strong until today. But the thing is, for the guys who are in it, it’s doubly hard to try to get the girl’s real intentions from the get go.

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Which why a little background check never hurts. Since we do every investigation as discreetly as possible, if we find nothing, then you can rest easy and sleep better at night knowing that your feelings are validated by facts. If we DO find something, on the other hand, then you have the opportunity to pull out of the relationship and save yourself the trouble of at least losing whatever is you stand to lose should you have continued on.

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The truth isn’t always easy to handle or accept, but if you are truly being scammed, then the truth will reveal itself somewhere along the way, and the longer you let it go along, then the more damage it will wreak on you. Knowing the truth at the onset of things – and not only even in a romantic / emotional relationship, but even in a professional and business one – is always the best way to go. Better safe than sorry, as the old saying goes, and you should take that to heart.

(Continued from the previous post)

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It’s not unusual for anyone to be taken in by this kind of non-threatening and (pretend) nurturing attitude – it automatically allays suspicion of any kind. It’s difficult to assign any sort of suspicion to someone who tries her best to get on your good side from the get go. From my experience, she always apologized and tried to adjust her situation to mine. It’s like I was made to feel like I was the only important person to her in the whole world. And again, if that sounds corny, I can only say that I hope that no one else gets snared in this kind of sticky sweet trap.

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I liken the whole experience to a fly and a Venus Flytrap – even the name is appropriate – she lures you in with sweet nectar, allows you to suck on it a bit, and then her jaws shut, and it’s your turn to be sucked up dry until you are left with nothing.

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I am very grateful that I came across you guys at Thailand Investigation (through this blog, coincidentally) that I was able to get some closure on the things she took from me. I believe the law prohibits me from divulging any details in a public forum, but suffice to say that I got some of what I lost back. Not all, but some is better than nothing. And the culprit is now being held accountable for the crimes she did.

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And mind you friends and readers, the deception does not stop there. She even tried to create some sob story that she hoped would soften my heart. My answer was to have the story checked out by Michel and his team, and it came as no surprise to me that her story – every single detail of it – was utterly and completely false. When you listen to it, it’s well inter-woven, and doesn’t sound like a cooked up lie at all. But of course suspicion had already set in, and it pays to make sure. These people are smooth and sleek liars, let me tell you. Really, if you didn’t think twice of thrice, you’d be caught completely – hook, line and sinker.

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I say to all those people who dismiss people like me and say that I was stupid, yes, I was stupid. But I would never ever underestimate these people. They know how to assess you and appeal to you, and no one is perfect. It’s not like I never heard of cases like mine before, but still, I got into all this trouble. Underestimating these people will be one of the biggest mistakes of your life.

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Anyway, my thanks again to Michel and his team for undertaking my case with all the due discreetness, accuracy, efficiency and professionalism possible. My only regret is that I did not hire them earlier. I really wish I did. By allowing this letter to be posted here is the least I can do to help Thailand Investigation help other people by making them empowered and informed.

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More power to you all.

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Best,

John Doe

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We’ve been going on and on here about the importance of knowing the truth, even though it sometimes is something you don’t want to hear, something undesirable. But nevertheless, we here at Thailand Investigations always advocate the benefits – especially in the long term – of knowing the truth at the onset.

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With permission from the client who emailed this letter to us, we are posting it here to help you guys understand why it always pays to know the truth. We’ve changed certain parts of this to help protect our client’s identity, but the message and the jist of the letter are the same.

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Michel and everyone at Thailand Investigation,

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Greetings!

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I’m writing to you today, first of all, to thank you for the help you, your service, and your blog have done in my life.

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Like probably many of your other clients, I too, fell into the trap of trusting the wrong local. I really don’t have anything against the local girls – I have met a lot who are of good character; it just so happened that I did not fall in love with one of them. It may sound corny, but that’s what happened. Sometimes you come to a point where you want to take things to a deeper level and won’t be satisfied with something just operating in a casual manner.

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She wasn’t the type of girl who was aggressive (at least openly) or assertive – to me she looked like a simple country lass who had fallen on hard times. I myself have been affected by the economic downturn that has plagued the world, and I can only imagine how hard it must have been for someone like her. Well, that was what I thought at least at the beginning.

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She was very loving and caring at the start of it all – there is truly something to the image of Thai girls being very attentive. For the first few month, everything was going on perfectly and smoothly, I was happy. I was not breaching the thought of marriage though (thankfully) as I was busy with many business pursuits both connected to the job and some on the side projects. Through all of that, I never thought to hire a private investigator to check on her background and check her story. The short of it was I trusted her implicitly with almost everything. I even gave her a credit card, which, to her credit at least, she did not use much – but thinking of it in hindsight, it might just have been a ploy to allay suspicion and not to rush things.

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One thing I will say about these types of girls is that they are very patient. They’ve done this before so they can be considered pros and experts at this. When you think of it, it’s a good life – they get to live in a nice home and have all their needs provided for, and most of the time, more than that as well.

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(to be continued next week)

Usually, when a person enters a foreign country, he or she is asked whether they’re visiting for business or for pleasure. Of course, for many, it’s a mix of both, to varying degrees. And in both as well, many foreigners get into trouble and have difficulty sorting things out, which leads to much more complications and problems.

This is where Thailand Investigation comes in. Armed with the knowledge of scientific and efficient investigation as well as the proper tools, skills, contacts, and technology, we get the job done.

Usually, when a person enters a foreign country, he or she is asked whether they’re visiting for business or for pleasure. Of course, for many, it’s a mix of both, to varying degrees. And in both as well, many foreigners get into trouble and have difficulty sorting things out, which leads to much more complications and problems..

Usually, when a person enters a foreign country, he or she is asked whether they’re visiting for business or for pleasure. Of course, for many, it’s a mix of both, to varying degrees. And in both as well, many foreigners get into trouble and have difficulty sorting things out, which leads to much more complications and problems.

At the helm of it all is Michel Mauquoi (Michel to his friends), who is a former Belgium Police Investigator, giving him more than enough experience in running an investigation. Plus, he is not only fluent in English, French, and Thai, but has also been running the private investigations service for eight solid years.

Through the years, Thailand Investigation has forged a solid reputation of not only being one of the leading PI agencies who tackle each case with skill and precision, but also with discretion. We here realize that a lot, of not all our clients very much prefer to have everything solved as quietly and as discreetly as possible. We always respect that, whether stated or not, and we do our utmost to always guard the privacy of our valued clients and customers.

We’ve also handled a lot of different cases before, which more or less makes anything you bring to us something we’ve done before. This experience handling similar cases in the past will help us bring everything to a close much easier (both for you and for us) and deliver accurate and efficiently obtained results. We’ve pretty much seen everything, which is why we’ve also put up this site to help visitors see the most common problems, and even share selections of client’s stories and letters (published with their consent and identities concealed) so that they may serve as lessons to others. We have also implemented the use of various technologies such as GPS real time tracking, computer and phone monitoring, and others to help us resolve things more effectively. We also realize that many of our clients want things accomplished in as little time as possible – not so much for financial reasons but more on the need for closure and the burden of the case (and the problem attached to it) lifted off their shoulders.

Thailand is a wonderful and rich and colorful country. It’s a place where both business ventures and pursuits of pleasure can thrive and grow, as long as you know how to navigate through the different aspects of the local environment and culture that make the whole Thailand experience unique and different from what you’ve seen before. But mistakes are easy to make somewhere along the way, and we are here to help you correct those mistakes, or better yet, through this blog, enable you to prevent anything untoward from happening.

So whether it’s a problem with business or pleasure or a little bit of both, we have all bases coved for you.

The modern oracle known as Wikipedia defines a GPS as: “The Global Positioning System (GPS) is a U.S. space-based global navigation satellite system. It provides reliable positioning, navigation, and timing services to worldwide users on a continuous basis in all weather, day and night, anywhere on or near the Earth which has an unobstructed view of four or more GPS satellites. GPS has become a widely used aid to navigation worldwide, and a useful tool for map-making, land surveying, commerce, scientific uses, tracking and surveillance, and hobbies such as geocaching and waymarking. Also, the precise time reference is used in many applications including the scientific study of earthquakes and as a time synchronization source for cellular network protocols.”

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Some feel that the GPS is an ordinary device. But used properly, it can be used as a very invaluable surveillance tool that can immensely help in any ongoing investigation. Not every private investigation agency has one, and on top of that we here at Thailand Investigations are proud to say that we have been able to resolve many cases through the use of our GPS real time tracking device.

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The GPS device itself is very small, and can be grasped in the palm of your hand. So you simply slip it inside the glove compartment or under the car – or wherever you feel it will stay without being detected – and monitor the subject’s movement and position from a distance. This way you won’t be fooled by alibis such as “I went out for dinner with my boss / friends,” or “I was just doing some overtime work.” You’ll know where they’ve been, and if they’re not telling you the truth, you may choose to ask them why yourself, or have us look for the answer for you.

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What’s good about our system of using the GPS device is that you can use it yourself. For example, you want to track the movements of your spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend, simply place the tracking device in his or her car – a place where it cannot be found. Is he going to a go-go bar? Is she seeing another man or being unfaithful? These are just some of the questions the GPS real time tracking device can answer for you.

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You get the option to use this very nifty little device for 15-30 days, which gives you enough time to determine if you need more expert help. Once you’re done using it, simply retrieve it and return it to us. If you need our services, you can discuss it with us then and we can also use the data you’ve collected as a starting point for a deeper and more thorough investigation.

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We here at Thailand Investigation believe in using the latest technologies in order for us to deliver the best kind of service. We understand that what our clients go through is not an easy process, and prolonging their suffering is something we do not want to be a part of. As far as we are concerned, the speedy resolution of the case is paramount, along with the presentation of facts and other information that our client needs. And combined with our skills, the GPS real time tracking device complements our service in so many ways.

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