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Do You Want to Know the Truth?

People don’t just cheat with other people and commit infidelity, people can also lie and manipulate you for an entirely different but equally compelling reason: MONEY. A lot of cases we handle involve partners cheating and lying about money. So we’ve decided to put together some tips to help you see the signs when a partner is going to be a problem, money-wise.

Talk about money? Change topic please.
If your partner quickly changes the subject or does not want to discuss money, he says, it’s a red flag. They may be hiding something or have deep-seated emotional issues with money.

Defensive in money issues.
Pay attention to your partner’s tone and emotional reaction to your simple money questions. If they are lying and you ask a basic question, “they may have an outsize response like anger, or might try to make you feel like a jerk.” Defensiveness or blame directed at you may be a red flag that something is wrong.

Wants to handle finances alone.
Many people don’t have a clue about their finances because they allowed their partners to take full control. It’s much easier to lie about debt and spending if the other person isn’t involved. Warning bells should go off if you ask to share money responsibilities and your partner insists on doing it alone. There may be something in the bills they don’t want you to see.

Tells lies to other people about money.
Watch your partner’s behavior early in the relationship to size up their financial philosophy. Willingness to lie to others about money is a red flag that they will also lie to you, he says. Notice if your partner inflates their income when talking to friends or becomes excited when a waiter or cashier miscalculates the bill to your partner’s benefit.

Overspending, purchases beyond current resources
Signs that your partner is lying may be staring you in the face. If they seem to be spending in excess of what they earn, it may be a red flag that have undisclosed credit cards, hidden debt or that they are misrepresenting their income.

Changing spending patterns.
Pay careful attention to your partner’s patterns but also to breaks in routine, which could signal that something’s going on. If they’ve suddenly changed their work hours, spending habits or bill-paying routine, they may be hiding something.

Browser history is ALWAYS clean.
Financial infidelity is even easier in an era when Internet gambling and online shopping are just a click away. If you notice that the browser history is empty, someone likely deleted it. It could be a red flag that your partner is attempting to cover up their online behavior.

They’ve been caught red-handed before.
Perhaps the clearest indication of money deceit is having caught your partner before. Because money-related addictions like gambling and excessive shopping are difficult to overcome, your partner may slip and then cover it up so they don’t have to face your reaction. Embarrassment and guilt are top reasons for money lies in a relationship. If they’ve lied before, they may do it again.

More often than not – based on our experience, at least – many people have some sort of suspicion from the get go that their partner is cheating. Sometimes the suspicion proves true (unfortunately), but sometimes it doesn’t either. But more often than not, it’s simply a gut feeling for them that starts all the questions: why is she like that? Is she cheating?

To help you know the tell-tale signs of cheating partners, here’s the continuation of a series on the topic. Here are a couple more pointers that might help you:

The Person Who Can’t Be Alone
If your significant other has never been single for any extended period of time, he or she has never had a chance to reflect on what went wrong in past relationships. But more importantly, this person is obviously terrified of being alone. This increases the odds that, if you aren’t available- either physically or emotionally- for even a short period of time, your mate may seek what he wants or needs from another person out of fear of being alone.

They Check Out and Talk About Other People
When your significant other is with you, they should be with and focused on you. So if they can’t avoid turning their heads or talking about the attractiveness of another person, odds are high that their behavior is even worse when you’re not there to supervise. You should be the focus of your mate’s attention when the two of you are together, and if your mate can’t do that, it means he or she may be looking for something they perceive to be better.

They Criticize Your Appearance
A person who frequently criticizes your appearance is a person who does not respect you. Further, if your spouse is criticizing your appearance, it means he’s judging you by comparison to other people, which increases his likelihood of cheating. Even if he’s not cheating, however, this is an abusive practice and no one should be in a relationship where this happens.

Weird Views About Relationships
People typically formulate beliefs about the world that help them to justify their place in it. So, for example, a person may claim that giving money to homeless people is wrong simply because they don’t want to do it! The same is true of relationship views. If your significant other makes a lot of philosophical claims about cheating being natural, inevitable, etc., claims that monogamy doesn’t work, or other such things, he may simply be trying to justify his own approach to the world. A few comments like these aren’t cause for concern because everyone, obviously, has a right to talk through and figure out one’s own views, but someone who constantly talks about the nature of infidelity is someone who may be trying to justify something they’re already doing.

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Remember though, that there is nothing like confirming things factually. To be sure, you are best off hiring professional private investigation services to help you ferret out the truth and lay your suspicions to rest. We are a professional, discreet, and experienced outfit that understands your needs and respects your privacy.

More often than not – based on our experience, at least – many people have some sort of suspicion from the get go that their partner is cheating. Sometimes the suspicion proves true (unfortunately), but sometimes it doesn’t either. But more often than not, it’s simply a gut feeling for them that starts all the questions: why is she like that? Is she cheating?
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To help you know the tell-tale signs of cheating partners, we’d like to start a series on the topic. Here are two pointers that might help you:
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You’re a secret.
It might sound romantic and thrilling at first, but know that cheaters keep you in the dark while they play in the light. Your relationship won’t work if you’re getting what I call the Shadow Treatment. The Shadow Treatment means that you are often kept waiting in the wings while your mate is out socializing. Think about it: Are there gatherings of friends, family reunions or workplace parties that you are not invited to? Do you only meet some of your honey’s network of friends? If you are kept on the sidelines, there’s probably a good reason. Maybe your sweetie is on the prowl for someone else. Or perhaps there is already someone else and so your role in his or her life can’t be made public. Anytime you are kept on the fringes once you believe you are an exclusive couple, be suspicious. And know that the only way to end Shadow Treatment is to stop accepting it. Once you challenge it, you will either be fully accepted in your sweetheart’s life… or know it’s time to leave.
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She’s emotionally absent.
Cheaters conceal their emotional whereabouts so they can be evasive about their physical whereabouts. Love is exhausting when you have to pry the truth out of a partner.
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Consider this story: After enjoying a platonic friendship for a decade, Margaret and Roy began dating. Roy was a traveling sales manager. While he was on the road, Margaret heard from him only occasionally. But he continued to say he wanted to spend more time with her — which he never did. Margaret was obviously a low priority for him. She was shocked to learn he had another girlfriend across the country.
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An emotionally absent partner may say what you want to hear, but will not change his or her actions — unless he or she wants to. Saying the right thing and doing the right thing are very different. If your honey talks a good game about spending more time with you and paying more attention to you but never delivers — look out! This person may be juggling multiple relationships.
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Remember though, that there is nothing like confirming things factually. To be sure, you are best off hiring professional private investigation services to help you ferret out the truth and lay your suspicions to rest. We are a professional, discreet, and experienced outfit that understands your needs and respects your privacy.

For a lot of people, hiring a private investigation service such as ourselves is more of a luxury rather than a necessity. It is not uncommon for people to associate our services for rich people (partly to blame on the way PIs and PI agencies are portrayed in the media).
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But in truth, we are more necessary than you think. We bring to the table a set of skills and in our case – years of experience – that you can utilize to facilitate a smooth and discreet investigation. In the hands of amateurs or even DIYs (do-it-yourselves), a lot can go wrong, and mistakes can happen that have the potential to further complicate already sticky problems.
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Why pick PI services? For one, it’s much safer to do so. Many private investigators, ourselves included, are former police officers very familiar with police procedure, self-defense, and investigative techniques. These skills are obtained through years of experience and cannot be duplicated or learnt overnight. Inexperienced people on the other hand, will simply blow their cover early in the investigation, especially with their emotional stake in the whole affair – emotions that can lead to rash conclusions and hasty actions, which often lead to disaster and tragedy. You never know if a subject you are investigating has some criminal experience or at least moves around in unsafe circles and places – not trusting a professional to do it puts your wellbeing at serious and needless risk.
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Secondly, PIs have a large network of contacts. Private investigators have a network of contacts and are experienced navigating through the different parts of the city or even nearby regions. From posh suburbs to dingy back alleys, the PI can blend in and there is always somebody he or she knows that can provide important information. Also, they (we) have state of the art equipment – to augment his skills, a private investigator is armed with and skilled at the use of a variety of state of the art equipment and software such as GPS real time tracking devices, surveillance cameras, computer and mobile phone monitoring software. This will aid him in getting the information he or she needs to get leads for the resolution of the case.
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We know the law. Unlike regular people, private investigators are knowledgeable about the law, and know what things to look for to aid you secure prosecution for example, a business associate who’s been skimming off your books. PIs know which things aid court proceedings and is well-versed in gathering evidence.
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Another thing: We do this full time. Unless you want to quit your job, investigations take up a lot of time. It will be difficult for you, to say the least, if you try to do you day job and your investigation at the same time. Understand that investigations are a fluid process – you can’t ask events to happen when it’s convenient for you to do so.
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One last question: Would you risk exposing a delicate matter to unconcerned and unrelated parties because of amateurish “investigation” skills? Remember, we’re pros because we do it best.

Nobody likes liars. Nobody likes being lied to. But it is an unfortunate fact of life that there are so many people out there who just lie their pants off without any second thought. Sometimes the lies are small and more or less inconsequential, but sometimes, being lied to can cost more than you like. Hearts have been broken, bank accounts have been emptied and live have been destroyed by lies.
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This is why it’s important to be able to distinguish when you are being lied to. It’s not fair that the liar has the advantage – you need to be informed and alert when it comes to things like this so you are never caught off guard or taken advantage of.
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The next question is: how to you tell a liar from a someone who’s telling the truth? Here are some things you can look out for and ask yourself when trying to spot potential liars. Even though you might be hurt when you discover someone is feeding you with falsehoods, it’s much better to know the truth in the long run rather than believe a lie for years and years.
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Is the person generally defensive?
Liars generally have a fear that they’re going to be found out one day, so they’re overly defensive about things related to the lie and the deception. Again, if there’s nothing to hide, then there’s really nothing to defend against, right?
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Does he/she contradict himself/herself?
Liars tend to put up one lie on top of the other, and sooner or later they’re bound to slip. Watch out then, for inconsistencies in their stories and question them extensively about it. Speaking of contradictions, they don’t need to be all verbal – sometimes a facial expression does not match what a person is saying, you just might not be noticing it.
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Does he/she make eye contact?
It is a general rule that people who shift their eyes and refuse to make eye contact are lying, but in some rare cases, some people aren’t used to making eye contact – it sometimes depends on their culture and their upbringing. Of course, there will be other more practiced liars like career cheaters and fraudsters who practice making eye contact even if they’re lying.
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Is he or she anxious and/or fidgety?
Anxiety is another sign that a person may be lying – he or she fidgets and makes other body movements like tapping a foot or touches a part of their face. If there’s nothing to hide, then there’s really nothing to get anxious about, is there? Sometimes, liars inadvertently place objects between you and him (or her) due to a sort of subconscious defence mechanism.
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Does he/she keep on changing the subject and deflect the issue?
One of the common techniques of liars is to deflect from the issue at hand, and he or she will try to change the subject, or, at the very least, be very much willing to change the subject. A person who is truthful will generally not mind sticking to the topic you are talking about.

When you think about it, a lot of the tragedies and problems people face could have been prevented, if only they were alert enough. True, it does sound a bit silly to say “alert”, like it’s a children’s song, but it still holds true. A lot of people put their guards down so easily, and thus leave themselves open to manipulation and all other sorts of sordid machinations.
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In our line of business, we are in a position to see things more or less from an outsider’s point of view. Not only do we look at a given situation with much more objectivity than others, we also know all the styles, techniques, and modus operandi some people use to take advantage of other people. And more often than not, a mere presence of mind could have saved so many people from the complications and problems they found themselves trapped in.
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We have a couple of posts on manipulation as well as the way financial scammers can cheat money off of you. Maybe next week, we will have a bit of a closer look again on financial frauds (as we have had several cases where we were asked to track down or investigate a suspicious ‘financial guru’).
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But right now, what we can really tell everyone is to simply be alert. Not giving your confidence and trust right away can go a long way in keeping you safe. It may be a simple thing to say (or read) that it’s important to be alert, but when faced with a very unique and attractive selling point – be it fast and easy financial gain, romance with a very pretty woman, and other such incentives, a lot of people just crumble and let themselves be swept away by the flow of things. And trust us when we say that the manipulators, cheaters and fraudsters out there know how to sell themselves and ease your second thoughts and doubts away. With all that, how many people can say that they still manage to stay alert and keep their wits about?
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When in doubt, it’s best to trust professionals. If you need a background check done or a nasty rumor / suspicion denied or confirmed, it is much better to entrust the job to people who do things in a methodical, precise, accurate, professional, and most of all, discreet way. Private investigation outfits such as this specialize in ferretting out the truth, not matter how deep under a rock it’s been hidden. Many people think that the value of a PI agency is only in the movies and our services are overrated and not worth it – nothing they can’t do themselves, a lot of people say. But in the end, many find out that it is not as easy as it all seems. Many further complicate their situations, and when we are called in, a major part of what we have to do is contain the damage.
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Alert is the right word, if you want to prevent unnecessary complications and problems from happening in your life.

Here’s the thing. Trustworthy people are hard to come by these days. And especially in the case of businesses and even parents, the disadvantages (if there are really any at all in reality) are vastly outweighed by the benefits. Just imagine having computer monitoring software at the office – remember that your employees, while having some rights to privacy of their own, are paid to be at the office to work. That means that there should be minimal to no personal errands or activities during office hours and using office equipment. One example we can give you is where one of our clients who handled a small advertising business wanted to increase productivity by having his computers monitored. While there were generally few incidents where the staff and employees had to be reprimanded for using the internet and computers for personal activities, once case did stand out, and that was one employee, instead of working, spent a significant amount of time in a workday doing sex chats and browsing porn. Just imagine the time wasted – how many more work could have been done during all those hours that employee spent being a pervert in the office. It may sound like a small thing to you, but the bottom line is that the hours your employees spend wasting time costs your company productivity, which in turn costs you money, especially in the long run.
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What if that employee wasn’t just browsing porn? What if he or she was selling ideas to a rival company? What if that employee was pirating work directed to the company and raking in the profits for himself? What if an employee in accounting was using his or her authority and access to the company’s coffers to siphon off money into his or her personal bank account? Without computer monitoring, chances are you never catch the culprit, or realize that you’ve been cheated – realized too late, that is. Computer monitoring in a business – or even mobile phone monitoring for that matter (as long as it is in company issues phones) – can help prevent people from abusing you and taking from you.
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What people need to realize is that anything done on company time, resources, and equipment basically belong to you. You do not pay other people a salary to use these things for their own personal purposes, much less work towards the detriment of your business. Some people argue that there occurs some invasion of privacy, and / or a lack of trust in the person being monitored. People who tell us this usually feel guilty about the whole thing, and have second thoughts about going through with getting the monitoring services.
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We here at Thailand Private Investigations do not just say these things just because we have a computer monitoring service we offer to clients. We say this because we believe that it is every employer’s right to know how their equipment is being used, and they deserve to know about any employees’ misdemeanors that might be going on – regardless of degree – using their own resources.

You might be noticing that sayings are becoming a recurrent theme in recent posts, but in the interest of what we promote here, a lot of these sayings are proving to be grains of wisdom that everyone should take to heart.
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Many people are looking for the “break” in their lives. Something to turn the tables and enable them to reverse their bad fortunes, so to speak. Many are on the lookout for opportunities to earn – and even to love, sometimes (cheesy but true). A sad fact though, is that many seek to take advantage of some people’s hunger for good opportunities to coax them into seeing glitter when in fact there is no gold at all.
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When it comes to opportunities, two words come to mind: SAFE and SECURE. In this day and age, people need to be secure in their investments and business operations, and safe in their personal relationships. It is important to be able to secure yourself first and find out if you are not unwittingly setting yourself up for some disaster – personal or financial.
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Of course, one cannot be secure and safe if the proper steps are not taken to ensure that this happens. A lot of times the incidents and cases we handle are caused by simple lack of foresight and the classic “I never thought it would happen to me” mentality. A lot of people never think that a lot of things will never happen to them. They look at other people who suffer misfortunes and then say, “That will never happen to me” then go on with a tirade of what they would have done were they in those people’s shoes. But ironically, many people whom we’ve worked for were those who uttered those same words. And if you’ve been reading the blog, we’ve talked before about the embarrassment that comes with asking for outside help – this is one of the reasons people are hesitant to seek help from third (objective) parties such as a private investigation agency.
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Being complacent is a bad way to start a business (or even a relationship). Since it’s traditionally the time when people reassess their lives and discover what they can do better, so it goes with security and safety. Like a company that hasn’t been stolen from before – they may not have had the misfortune of hiring an employee that steals from them, but this year can be different, so why not install a computer monitoring system at the office?
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With Thailand Private Investigations, we have a lot of other options for you to choose from. There are background checks, GPS tracking and mobile phone monitoring services we offer, along with other kinds of services designed to fit your needs. We realize that every case is different so we encourage everyone to just contact us directly to have a better idea of what we can do for you. We are also very discrete which is why you can trust us with your story.

Sometimes it happens that we get a case or two which involves people being involved in some kind of illegal activity. Most often, they never really know what’s happening or what laws they broke – they were scammed into committing illegal acts. Sometimes there are also people who involve themselves in it because of the money or payoff involved – and oftentimes their rationale is because no one gets hurt.
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We understand that it is hard for many to completely grasp not only the culture, but also the laws in a certain place. Especially for foreigners – who often have only good intentions or who only want a good time – it is easy for some “enterprising” individuals (sometimes locals, but also sometimes fellow foreigners) to take advantage of the ignorance of the locale to scam people and milk them for all they are worth.
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Our advice is to always be cautious. It may something from a friend, or a referral of a friend or a loved one, but as the saying goes, caution is the better part of valor. While it is true that opportunities are fleeting and can be gone in a heartbeat, not all opportunities are legit or appear to be what they seem at first (or even second) glance. The first order of business in things like this need to be you staying away and taking the time to think things through.
The next order of business should be you hiring a PI to look things up – sometimes a deal that looks shady may not be a shady deal at all, or maybe you just want to make sure that you are not passing up on a good opportunity.
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One of the most important things you can do when entering into a business or personal relationship with someone whose background you’re not too sure of is to have his or her background checked. At the very least, you can avoid being surprised by whatever skeletons he or she has hidden in the closet. Sometimes these things don’t matter too much, sometimes they do. Either way, you’re always better off knowing rather than constantly being in the dark until the last minute – and if it does turn out that these ‘surprises’ are important, then the time you know is probably when it’s too late to do anything about it. Having a background check done protect you, sparing you from being exposed, duped or unknowingly made into unsuspecting accomplices by these unscrupulous people.
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Remember that the truth can sometimes be elusive, and some people take advantage of that. They make you feel like everything is perfect, so that you let your guard down and after a while, the lie will be solidified as truth to you. You need to stop them before they latch their claws onto you.
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That’s what background checks are for. They’re more important than you think they are. You need a discreet and effective investigative agency that will help you ferret out the real score so you can determine whether the person is trustworthy or not, and in that, we here at Thailand Investigations are one of the best in the industry. Please don’t hesitate to contact us for further details. We will keep all communications confidential.

We here at Thailand Investigation offer a program that enables you to gain access to more information regarding your girlfriend’s (or any person you want, for that matter) activity. Its most valuable feature is that it enables you to listen to all phone calls that the target mobile phone makes or receives. You’d also know the phone call details, such as the number, the time and the duration, along with the name it is assigned to in the target mobile phone. Apart from this, you could also read all text messages and email that go in the mobile phone, in short, virtually any activity that takes place in the phone. Other benefits that this program provides are the following: access to the phone’s exact coordinates (that is, if the target phone has GPS), ability to listen in to the phone surroundings when the phone is not in use. All this is undetectable to the target in question.

There are many reasons why it is advantageous to have a mobile phone monitoring system in place. As an employer, you may provide mobile phones for employees that work away from the office. As a parent or partner in a relationship or business, you might have given your children or the other party an iPhone, BlackBerry, or Android smart phone. Do you know what these phones are being used for? One way to know for sure is to use mobile monitoring software to view any activity associated with the phone. This helps solve or untangle many problems involved with allowing someone to use your mobile phone.

There are times when you just feel it in your gut that your partner is doing a double (or maybe even triple) number of you. You feel it, but can’t really put a finger to anything. This is normal, as you will be driven to think positively and try to see the best in your partner, thus finding it hard to look out for clues or indications that he or she might be cheating on you. Don’t worry, you are not alone when you look to optimism and turn a blind eye to your gut feel. But denial only leads to tragedy in the long run, so it is always best to identify the signs and maybe, just maybe, you can still save the relationship – if you want to.

As a parent, business partner, or lover, it is important for you to be able to communicate, but the person you give your cellphone to sees more benefits than open communication with just you. It’s hard to keep up with the constant changes in technology.

Cell phones are continually becoming more advanced, and means of communication with a cell phone varies from simply making a phone call to using text messages, email, or the web. You would have a hard time keeping track of all of this on a day to day basis manually, and you won’t be able to view anything that has been removed from the phone. Thankfully, there is software available for you to monitor your mobile phone.