Is your partner lying to you about money?
September 9th, 2011
People don’t just cheat with other people and commit infidelity, people can also lie and manipulate you for an entirely different but equally compelling reason: MONEY. A lot of cases we handle involve partners cheating and lying about money. So we’ve decided to put together some tips to help you see the signs when a partner is going to be a problem, money-wise.
Talk about money? Change topic please.
If your partner quickly changes the subject or does not want to discuss money, he says, it’s a red flag. They may be hiding something or have deep-seated emotional issues with money.
Defensive in money issues.
Pay attention to your partner’s tone and emotional reaction to your simple money questions. If they are lying and you ask a basic question, “they may have an outsize response like anger, or might try to make you feel like a jerk.” Defensiveness or blame directed at you may be a red flag that something is wrong.
Wants to handle finances alone.
Many people don’t have a clue about their finances because they allowed their partners to take full control. It’s much easier to lie about debt and spending if the other person isn’t involved. Warning bells should go off if you ask to share money responsibilities and your partner insists on doing it alone. There may be something in the bills they don’t want you to see.
Tells lies to other people about money.
Watch your partner’s behavior early in the relationship to size up their financial philosophy. Willingness to lie to others about money is a red flag that they will also lie to you, he says. Notice if your partner inflates their income when talking to friends or becomes excited when a waiter or cashier miscalculates the bill to your partner’s benefit.
Overspending, purchases beyond current resources
Signs that your partner is lying may be staring you in the face. If they seem to be spending in excess of what they earn, it may be a red flag that have undisclosed credit cards, hidden debt or that they are misrepresenting their income.
Changing spending patterns.
Pay careful attention to your partner’s patterns but also to breaks in routine, which could signal that something’s going on. If they’ve suddenly changed their work hours, spending habits or bill-paying routine, they may be hiding something.
Browser history is ALWAYS clean.
Financial infidelity is even easier in an era when Internet gambling and online shopping are just a click away. If you notice that the browser history is empty, someone likely deleted it. It could be a red flag that your partner is attempting to cover up their online behavior.
They’ve been caught red-handed before.
Perhaps the clearest indication of money deceit is having caught your partner before. Because money-related addictions like gambling and excessive shopping are difficult to overcome, your partner may slip and then cover it up so they don’t have to face your reaction. Embarrassment and guilt are top reasons for money lies in a relationship. If they’ve lied before, they may do it again.
More often than not – based on our experience, at least – many people have some sort of suspicion from the get go that their partner is cheating. Sometimes the suspicion proves true (unfortunately), but sometimes it doesn’t either. But more often than not, it’s simply a gut feeling for them that starts all the questions: why is she like that? Is she cheating?
More often than not – based on our experience, at least – many people have some sort of suspicion from the get go that their partner is cheating. Sometimes the suspicion proves true (unfortunately), but sometimes it doesn’t either. But more often than not, it’s simply a gut feeling for them that starts all the questions: why is she like that? Is she cheating?
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